If you were ever told “you made this happen,” “you made me do this,” or “it’s your fault,” you need to know these were lies designed to protect your abuser from taking responsibility for their actions. Adults blame children because they cannot or will not take responsibility for their own behavior. When parents lost their…
If you’ve been told “time heals all wounds” or made to feel like you should be “over it by now,” please know that this is one of the most harmful myths told to trauma survivors. If time really healed trauma, we wouldn’t need therapy, self-reflection, support groups, or any healing work. We would just need…
If someone has ever told you that you “imagined” what happened to you, or if your memories have been questioned and dismissed, this message is for you. One of the most harmful tactics used against trauma survivors is to claim that imperfect memories somehow prove that abuse never occurred. This is not only wrong, it’s…
If you grew up hearing constant criticism or being told you were “useless,” “bad,” “selfish,” “lazy,” or that you would “never amount to anything,” please know that these were lies designed to control you, not truth about who you are. Many of us have deep-rooted feelings of unworthiness based on these cruel deceptions. If you…
If you were ever told “I won’t love you if you misbehave” or felt like love was something you had to earn through good behavior, please know that this wasn’t love at all; it was manipulation and control. Anyone who has ever watched a nature documentary will have seen how animals will fight to the…
If you’ve been told that trauma “made you stronger” or that you should somehow be grateful for what you endured, please know that this is a harmful myth that needs to be challenged. The idea that “whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” is often promoted in books about trauma and resilience, but it’s not…
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