If you were ever told “you made this happen,” “you made me do this,” or “it’s your fault,” you need to know these were lies designed to protect your abuser from taking responsibility for their actions. Adults blame children because they cannot or will not take responsibility for their own behavior. When parents lost their…
If you’ve been told “time heals all wounds” or made to feel like you should be “over it by now,” please know that this is one of the most harmful myths told to trauma survivors. If time really healed trauma, we wouldn’t need therapy, self-reflection, support groups, or any healing work. We would just need…
If someone has ever told you that you “imagined” what happened to you, or if your memories have been questioned and dismissed, this message is for you. One of the most harmful tactics used against trauma survivors is to claim that imperfect memories somehow prove that abuse never occurred. This is not only wrong, it’s…
If you grew up hearing constant criticism or being told you were “useless,” “bad,” “selfish,” “lazy,” or that you would “never amount to anything,” please know that these were lies designed to control you, not truth about who you are. Many of us have deep-rooted feelings of unworthiness based on these cruel deceptions. If you…
If you struggle with anxiety or depression but can’t understand why, have difficulty forming close relationships, or feel more emotionally sensitive than others, this may help explain what you’re experiencing. What you might be dealing with is something called latent vulnerability – described by leading experts as the unseen link between childhood trauma and later…
If you find yourself thinking you’re not good enough or there’s something wrong with you, or believing you’re unlovable, this is for you. These thoughts aren’t random self-criticism. They’re core beliefs that formed when you were most vulnerable, trying to make sense of a difficult world. Throughout childhood we tried to make sense of our…
If you’ve ever wondered why childhood experiences continue to affect you so deeply, or if you’ve been told to ‘just get over it’ and move on, this may help you understand. As children facing difficult circumstances, we were in a position of complete powerlessness. This wasn’t a character flaw or weakness – it was the…
If you were ever told “I won’t love you if you misbehave” or felt like love was something you had to earn through good behavior, please know that this wasn’t love at all; it was manipulation and control. Anyone who has ever watched a nature documentary will have seen how animals will fight to the…
If you grew up believing you were a bad person who somehow deserved criticism, harsh treatment, or abuse, that belief was based on lies you were taught, not truth about who you are. Children naturally trust their parents and assume that how they’re treated reflects their worth. When your caregivers treated you harshly, your developing…
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