If you find yourself repeatedly drawn to romantic partners, friends, or even jobs that treat you the same way your parents did, you’re not alone. What you’re experiencing is one of the strangest psychological phenomena we encounter in healing from childhood abuse or distressing upbringing. It’s called “repetition compulsion.” Your mind plays this trick on…
If setting boundaries feels lonely or makes your relationships seem less rewarding, you are not doing anything wrong. This reaction is normal and expected. Relationships can feel different when you set clear limits. They may seem less rewarding at first because they are no longer built on what you give. You may miss the approval…
If your need to keep others happy is having a negative impact on your wellbeing, you can begin to change that pattern. There are steps you can try to lessen its impact. This doesn’t mean dramatic overnight changes. Small, consistent shifts can make a real difference. Try gentle no’s. Instead of always agreeing to every…
If you exhaust yourself trying to keep everyone happy and avoid conflict, you are not flawed.These patterns are survival strategies you developed as a child. People-pleasing (the art of anticipating the needs and moods of others to avoid conflict or rejection) begins as protection.When home feels unpredictable, a child learns to watch every mood, anticipate…
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